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Showing posts with label Identity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Identity. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Hi, I’m Me, and You Are?


            There’s this funny thing that everyone, and I mean everyone, likes to do. Label. We put a label on everything. No one is innocent. We all like to label places, actions, objects, even people. We even label ourselves in this aimless attempt to come up with some form of a personal identity. Everyone asks the same question, “Who am I?” Everyone also wants a simple answer, as if one word could sum up all of the labels into one.

            I think I’ve found that word: Me.
           
            Don’t get me wrong. I still have to use labels to describe myself to other people. If they ask me what I want to be, I say, “writer” and if they ask me what I do, I say, “student.” If they ask me my age, I say, “teenager” and if they ask me my faith, I say, “Christian.” The truth is though, that not a single one of those responses makes up who I am entirely. Not one.

            Personally, I’ve always struggled with this whole identity business. For example, I’m Hispanic, but I’m also American. I always joke by saying that I’m too Hispanic for Americans and too American for Hispanics. I tried to pick which side I belonged to the most, but the truth is that I’m both, and I’ve had to come to terms with that.

Once I realized that neither label could stand alone to fulfill my identity, I began to think about how no label at all could describe me. It made me wonder about my identity. It made me ask myself, “Who am I?”
           
            Then, when the campus ministries at my school came together last week for a concert with the exact theme of “Who Am I?” I thought about this even more. The topic was about having an identity in Christ as God’s children. It got me thinking and I think I’ve come up with a conclusion I can accept.

God loves me for who I am, not for what society tells me to be or says I am, not even for what I say I am. No matter what, I’m His, and I’m not His as a Hispanic or as an American. I’m not His as a writer or as a student. I’m not His as a teenager or even as a Christian. I’m just His as me.
           
            Now, “me” is made up of a numerous amount of labels, given to me by others, as well as myself. Separately, not a single one can even come close to describing who I truly am, but together they come just a little bit closer. The truth is though, when it comes to my identity, the only word that can faithfully sum up all of who I am is, “me.”

            I’m “me” and if that’s good enough for God, well, then that’s just good enough for me too.

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Christian? Teen? I'm Both


Yes, I'm a Christian. Yes, I'm a teenage girl. So what? That doesn't mean I have to be the stereotypical "shove Jesus down everyone's throat while judging them behind their backs and simultaneously being a hypocrite" Christian. Honestly? Those "Christians" bug me too.

It also doesn’t mean I have to hide my Christianity and become the stereotypical “girls gone wild” teen either.

Truth? Being a Christian teen isn’t easy. I don’t think it ever was. My friends are on one side inviting me to do things I don’t want to do as a Christian. My mom tells me things I should do as a Christian on the other. And my TV is in front of me, showing things I wish I could do, but shouldn’t, as a Christian.

Sound familiar?

What does that mean? I can’t have any fun or fit in as a Christian? Do I have to compromise my Christian values to be what society wants me to be?

Eventually I realized, no, not at all.

All I had to do was find that boundary. As a Christian, what do I know I want to do? What do I know I don’t want to do? I want to have fun and go out with my friends, but I don’t want to get drunk. I want to go to church, read the Bible and pray, but I don’t want to be judged for it.

Where does that leave me? Trying to be the best Christian I can be as a teenage girl in today’s society.

As a teen girl, society expects me to party and have a hangover every Thirsty Thursday. Society expects me to have sex with every guy I date. Society expects me to wear slutty clothes and too much makeup. Society expects me to lie to my parents and sneak out at night. Society expects me to be a rude, immature, teen girl with low self-esteem. Society expects me to be the stereotypical teen girl.

But I’m not. I don’t want to be.

On the flip side, as a Christian, society expects me to shove Jesus down people’s throats to the point where I’ll be hated by anyone who has a different opinion than me. Society expects me to judge others when they act “un-Christian.” Society expects me to be a hypocrite and act “un-Christian” myself while continuing to judge others. Society expects me to pretend to be this fake perfect, holy saint. Society expects me to be the stereotypical Christian.

But I’m not. I don’t want to be.

There’s this balance between what I personally feel it means to be a teenage girl, as well as a Christian. I don’t have to fit in to either stereotype if I don’t want to. I need to find that balance that I feel comfortable with.

So, yes, I’m Christian, but I’m also a teenage girl. So what? Does that mean I have to choose one or the other?

Actually, I choose to be both.